Sunday Stealing….Birds are chirping…

Birds Are Chirping Meme

Welcome back to Sunday Stealing which originated on WTIT: The Blog authored by Bud Weiser. Here we will steal all types of memes from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent memes. You may have heard the expression, “honor amongst thieves”. In that age-old tradition, we try to credit the blog that we stole it from. We also provide a link to the victim’s meme in our “Previous Victims” widget. (It’s our way of saying “Thanks!”) Sometimes we edit the original meme, to make it more relevant to our global players, to challenge our players, to select the best questions, or simply to make it less repetitive from this new meme or recently asked questions from a previously featured meme.
Cheers to all of us thieves!!! 

Birds Are Chirping Meme

  1. Name a product you buy mostly because it has a cool package.  My mechanical boyfriend
  2. What flavor cake do you like for your birthday?  Vanilla cake with chocolate frosting
  3. Have you ever been in love with someone much older or younger than you?  Yes. I loved my ex-husband who was/is 14 years my senior. And my last official boyfriend was 4 years my junior.
  4. Have you ever had a job you loved? My last temp job. I was soo sad to see that one end.
  5.  Have you ever been in a building that was on fire?  No
  6. Are you in an argument with anyone right now?  My youngest sister who is still not talking to me after I refused to help her move.
  7. Would you change your hair color to something outrageous if you would get paid to?  No. I need to stay employable.
  8. Have you ever written a poem for someone?  I hate poetry.
  9. What is a place you’ve vacationed at and would like to go back to?  I recently visited Texas. It was my third visit and I like to visit but I am not sure I would want to live there or visit often. I love my peeps out there though.
  10. Do you eat samples at the grocery store?  No.
  11. What do you absolutely have to have to make your birthday feel special?  Someone I care about remembering.
  12. What’s the last tourist area you visited?  Downtown Dallas
  13. Where do you go out to eat for a special occasion?  My own kitchen. I think it as a treat for me to create my own meal.
  14. When was the last time you went to a post office? Two weeks ago to send kiddo her birth certificate.
  15.  Is there an item you are saving up to buy right now?  My tickets to visit my family for Thanksgiving.
  16. Are you psychic in any way?  Yes.
  17. Do you prefer a laptop or desktop? Which are you on now?  I prefer laptop for its mobility which is what I am using now, however I miss the desktop for the keyboard and mouse.
  18. Have you ever received a gift and truly did not know what it was?  Nope
  19. What’s your homepage? nope
  20. Is there a thing you enjoy doing, but quit because you are not good at it? Exercise. It is like an annoying ex that constantly circles around me. I quit it often but end up crawling back.

Luckiest Girl Alive by Jessica Knoll – Book Club Review…(might have spoilers)

I recently joined a book club and the second book was/is Luckiest Girl Alive and I am on the fence of whether I liked it or not. The main character Ani is one of the most unlikable characters I have read in a while. Throughout the story you learn she has been through great tragedy and that her parents are crap to boot. Despite all that I still do not think that warrants her bad behavior. Ani spends most of the novel using and manipulating people to her own ends which is not any better than those that took advantage of her. They like her took advantage of others because they could. Those that hurt her met horrible ends where her biggest consequence was being miserable and unsuccessfully trying to seduce a married man. In the end she has the best revenge of all, still being alive and able to fix her miserable existence and not marrying someone for all the wrong reasons.

I felt bad for her during the sexual assault and how cavalier she was treated after by everyone but Mr. Larson. I think the fact that Mr. Larson(Andrew) was the only kind person during her worst moment and his draw to broken people created a misguided attachment between them. Thankfully he knew better and saved her from herself one last time. Also, the scene at planned parenthood was horrible. In what universe is a medical professional able to say well I am not qualified to answer that after an underage patient asks, “If I do not remember having sex, does it make it rape?” If abuse of any kind is suspected or implied aren’t they supposed to report that to the authorities?

Oh Arthur! I would never guessed his ultimate role in the novel. I did not see that coming until maybe he went all batshit crazy with Ani and she ran out in the nick of time. I would have never seen him as violent. I guess years of being treated as an outcast got the best of him and Ben who only was marginalized mention throughout the book. Ben’s character never flushed out even though he was a crucial part of the biggest tragedy of the novel. The level of detail in the massacre chapter was a little off putting. This is the only part of the novel I felt the least bit of sympathy for Ani. She made a hard decision in the most difficult of situations.

Ani and Luke were destined to fail from the get go. Her intentions with him were never noble. She hated everything he represented. It was everything her mom wanted for her and that in itself should have been her biggest warning sign of this doomed relationship.

And her mom? The worst mother ever. How the hell do you blame your child for being raped? Ani was so desperate for acceptance she ignored or did not see the warning signs of being the only girl at the party. That does not excuse the boys of taking advantage of a girl who could not consent. Because she didn’t fight them( she was unconscious drunk) they thought she was ok with it? WTF!!!

My favorite part of the book? The ending. Ani finally found the  courage to take control of her life and began giving importance to her instincts. She was able to sever a relationship she knew was wrong. She also was able to find some kind of closure  with her assault. She was able to get validation that those that caused her harm knew what they did was wrong and could admit that what happened to her was in fact rape. My hope as a reader is that she found closure in Dean’s admission.

Sometimes the best revenge is being happy. You can’t always prevent bad things from happening to you and sometimes all you can do is survive it, learn from it and move on from it. Moving on does not mean you forget but moving is on is simply taking back the power your “bad thing” has on you.

Sunday stealing….Free!

I want you to be free from me

Welcome back to Sunday Stealing which originated on WTIT: The Blog authored by Bud Weiser. Here we will steal all types of memes from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent memes. You may have heard the expression, “honor amongst thieves”. In that age-old tradition, we try to credit the blog that we stole it from. We also provide a link to the victim’s meme in our “Previous Victims” widget. (It’s our way of saying “Thanks!”) Sometimes we edit the original meme, to make it more relevant to our global players, to challenge our players, to select the best questions, or simply to make it less repetitive from this new meme or recently asked questions from a previously featured meme.
Cheers to all of us thieves!!!  I want you to be free from me Meme

Are your nails painted a dark or light color? 

No color at all. I hate nail polish on my hands. My feet nails are royal blue.
Have you ever order pizza online?  
Yes.
What color was the last candle you lit? 
A San Lazaro candle.Not sure how to define the color.
 Is there something written on your shirt right now?  
Bella Luna
Is there a bookshelf in your room?  
Yes but it is not fully assembled. It is missing some pegs to get the shelves up.
Do you own a treadmill?  
Absolutely not.
Have you ever signed up for a gym membership?  
Yes. I currently have one. I think the last time I went to it was in April
Is there a garbage can in your room? What color is it?
No. I don’t own a garbage can. I use supermarket bags and remove garbage daily.
Have you ever read in the bathtub?  
Yes. I do all the time, especially this week.
Have you ever had to wear a hairnet?  
Yes. I used to work in fast food.
Do you know how many pages the last book you read had?  
338. I just finished my book club book called The Luckiest Girl Alive by Jessica Knoll
What day of the week does the laundry usually get done?  
During a weekday. I hate laundry to impede on my weekend and the weekend happens to be the worst time to go to the laundromat.
Do you use the Facebook chat often?  
I used to but I hate the apps need to invade my privacy.
Do you have any baby pictures of yourself on your computer?  
Yes. At work I have the picture I used for my birthday. During the month all folks whose birthday it is submit a picture and everyone else has to guess who the baby is. I used my first passport picture.
Do you eat onion rings?  
I do. I like them better at Burger King than the fries.
What flavor of tea did you last have?
If Snapple counts….Snapple Apple
Do you own a bathrobe?  
No. I walk in the nude from the shower to my room. Heck I live alone.
Did you/will you have coffee or some other form of caffeine today?  
Nope. If I have coffee now I will never sleep. I did have two drinks of soda today.
Do you have a mailbox or do you collect your mail from the post office?  
Neither. But I clearly should according to my insurance company. The policy for mail order pharmacy is a pain in the ass and especially so since I can’t receive packages where I live.
What was the last animal you saw, and was it a pet?  
I saw a Duck crossing the street. Definitely not a pet.
What was the last documentary you watched focusing on?
The mistreatment of Whales by Sea World
Is there anything you need to remember to do before the day ends?
Drink more water
Is your car messy, or do you like to keep it clean?  
Right now? Clean. It is not the usual state of the car but lately yes.
Are you the type to wake up before the sun has even risen?
Yes but then roll right back to sleep.
Do you get uncomfortable when people stare at you?
Yes but I tend to say something snarky when I notice and in turn make them uncomfortable.
Have you ever been admitted to the hospital for a long period of time?
Never. The longest was when I had my baby

Mini-Vacation….

In a couple of days I will be visiting for the third time, the Lone Star State. The first visit was almost ten years ago for a school conference, then six years ago to visit a friend and I had kiddo in tow at the time. This next visit is to visit friend without kiddo in tow. The reality is is that I don’t particularly like Texas but I would really like to spend time with my friend and her family. I make the trek because I no longer have small children and my friend does. She can not readily get up and go like I can. Thankfully her husband has approved my two day visit and has graciously agreed to let me stay with them .

I am at  a loss of what to do on a tight budget and that is also kid friendly for two preteens. Any and all suggestions are welcomed.

Story Idea….Governors Island…

Travel is something I have put on my empty nest to do list. So far it is going well. I have signed up to do things I would normally never decide to do and have traveled, mostly locally, to places I had never seen before. Just last weekend I went to Governor’s Island located a short boat ride from the southern tip of Manhattan. In my all my years I had never been to visit. I had heard of it here and there but had never been. I signed up with one of my meetup groups and spent the good part of my Saturday taking in tours of the island with the group and then strolling through the island leisurely on my own once I lost track of the group.

Governors Island has gone through many changes of use and for awhile was left abandoned. However these days it is clearly becoming a must see for most tourists and a great location to host many festivals and such. Despite all the activity I saw around me I was struck most by the abandoned residences and the general vibe I got. It was a beautiful island but the sense of loss was palatable, at least to me and some of my fellow visitors.

I started doing some research on the island and most people that lived there once upon a time had nothing but positive stuff to say. They felt it was the best place to grow up. The only negative I have read so far is when Castle William or Fort Jay were used for Halloween festivities. The whole visit got me inspired to write a story about living on the island. Anyone interested in sharing with me their experience do not hesitate to reach out to me. I would love to hear little know facts, a day in the life of a resident(child or adult), the local folklore and ghost stories, maybe a teacher that left a lasting impression and what you miss most about living there, maybe a day during a bad winter storm  or any information or person I should reach out to for more information would be great!

Sunday Stealing – Crazy Random 20 Meme

Crazy Random 20 Meme

Welcome back to Sunday Stealing which originated on WTIT: The Blog authored by Bud Weiser. Here we will steal all types of memes from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent memes. You may have heard the expression, “honor amongst thieves”. In that age-old tradition, we try to credit the blog that we stole it from. We also provide a link to the victim’s meme in our “Previous Victims” widget. (It’s our way of saying “Thanks!”) Sometimes we edit the original meme, to make it more relevant to our global players, to challenge our players, to select the best questions, or simply to make it less repetitive from this new meme or recently asked questions from a previously featured meme.
Cheers to all of us thieves!!!  Crazy Random Twenty Meme

  1. Have you ever demolished a wall or building? Yes. When I was a teenager I got into major fights with my older sister. During one of those fights I ran after her with a metal broom. Luckily for me and her she moved in time before I actually hit her with the broom. The door she was standing in front of? Not so lucky.
  2. If you and a friend both wanted the same thing would you let the friend get it first? Yes. Sometimes it not always necessary to get everything we want. It is even less awesome to get what you want at the expense of someone else being unhappy.
  3. Have you ever argued over who should pay for something? Yes but mostly on dates with people I had no intention of going on a second date. I feel letting them pay leads them on.
  4. Do you have any family heirlooms? Nope
  5. Are you related or distantly related to anyone famous? Not that I am aware of.
  6. What’s your favorite ocean? Atlantic ocean. I have never seen another.
  7. Do you correct peoples mistakes? Sometimes. If anything I never keep my disapproval to myself. I cannot correct what others want to do but if I think you are making a mistake I will tell you. If I don’t say anything then I don’t care. Example? One of my sisters decided to move out of her mom’s house even though it is in walking distance of her Masters program. Now granted her mom is bat shit crazy. But after incurring debt at a top tier school and now having to take loans to live for the next five years is insane. When it comes time to go out in the real world and work, all her money will be tied to paying off this substantial debt. I think it is impractical and short sighted. I told her as much and well at this time we are currently not on speaking terms.
  8. Have you ever helped out an injured animal? No. I have accidentally run over a cat and a squirrel trying not to hit a deer.
  9. Do you think babies are little bundles of joy or smelly noisy things? Both. All babies are a blessing and all babies are noisy smelly things.
  10. Do you give money to buskers? ??
  11. Do you ever forward or reply to chain mails? No but I do sometimes share those chain messages on facebook.
  12. Do you often have a tune in your head you can’t name? Yes! When I hear an 80’s song on the radio and I know all the lyrics but have no idea the artist or the song name.
  13. Has anyone ever approached you thinking you were someone else? Yes. I am told often that I look like someone they used to know. I usually ask for further details. My dad was a rolling stone. I could potentially have unknown siblings out there.
  14. Have you ever starred in an amateur or professional video? Ummm, no. I am not sure what kind of videos this question means so I will go with no. But if wedding videos count, then yes.
  15. Have you ever been in a position of authority? Yes! I was/am an older sibling. I used to love annoying my younger siblings. There was that one time I locked them out of the house when I was 15. I suggested they go out and play and when they did I closed and locked the door behind them. To this day they won’t let me forget about it.
  16. If you were ruler of your own country what would you call it? Ballbuster.
  17. And what title would you give yourself? Queen Ball buster
  18. If you invented a monster what would you call it? After the guy who sexually assaulted me when I was vulnerable.
  19. And what features would it have? Cold heartedness

Sunday Stealing…Shout out the answer…

Shout Out The Answer

Welcome back to Sunday Stealing which originated on WTIT: The Blog authored by Bud Weiser. Here we will steal all types of memes from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent memes. You may have heard the expression, “honor amongst thieves”. In that age-old tradition, we try to credit the blog that we stole it from. We also provide a link to the victim’s meme in our “Previous Victims” widget. (It’s our way of saying “Thanks!”) Sometimes we edit the original meme, to make it more relevant to our global players, to challenge our players, to select the best questions, or simply to make it less repetitive from this new meme or recently asked questions from a previously featured meme.
Cheers to all of us thieves!!! 

Shout Out The Answer Meme

Do you shout out the answers at the TV while watching quiz shows?
Sometimes.

  1. Do you get over-involved with TV or movie plots at times? if it is interesting enough
  2. What’s the highest hill or mountain you’ve ever climbed? Mount defiance in the NJ Botanical gardens in Ringwood
  3. Do you have a piggy bank? Nope but I should
  4. What’s the fastest you’ve ever traveled in a car? 80 miles an hour
  5. Could you ever hand milk a cow? Yes and it was weird. I like my milk processed and in the dairy section of the supermarket
  6. Which was your favorite science? Biology, Physics or Chemistry? Biology
  7. Have you ever had a surprise party? (that was an actual surprise) Well when I was 15. In my culture it is customary to celebrate a quincenera but I was not one of those girly girls or had enough friends to have a proper one. My mom had my best friend have her boyfriend to take me for a walk. I was so upset no one remembered my birthday. It had never occurred to me that it was all a ruse to prepare my surprise birthday party.
  8. Have you ever worn clothing with the labels/tags still attached? Yes and even inside out
  9. Have you ever slipped on a banana skin? Nope
  10. Are you scared of the dark? Lately yes. There have been some things going bump in the night
  11. Do you have a lawyer? No.
  12. If you had a paid year off, what would you want to do? Work on a novel, travel and spend as much time as possible with kiddo
  13. How long did you last phone call last? 5 minutes
  14. Have you ever helped someone across the road? Yes and then helped them to get to their final destination. It was not safe driving home a stranger but thankfully it did not end with an unhappy ending.
  15. Have you ever been wolf whistled in public?Nope