According to Sarah

August lessons…

This summer started off rough but ended on a pretty good  note. Financial woes still persist but I take them in stride now and less panic. Panic does nothing to improve a situation.

Ten things I have learned in the month of August are:

  1. Life is too short to be miserable. It is not a new lesson but one reinforced by demise of a new friendship. It was short lived and hopefully behind me. I need to surround myself more with people that get me and love me warts and all. Gone are the days where I accommodate childish demands from grown people.
  2. I love to travel. It needs to be something I explore more throughout the remainder of this year and into the new one.
  3. People make time for those things they truly want to do. Also not a new lesson but one worth reminding myself of when others make it seem like I expect too much.
  4. Family is all that matters but not all family matters the same. Love all your family but value them to the same level they value you.
  5. Writing makes me happy. It is something I have grown lax with lately and I feel disconnected from life without it. I must make more time for it.
  6. Find what makes you happy and then work on it, foster it and it will bloom. Timing is everything.
  7. I want to invest in my spiritual side more. I am not a religious person but I like to feel spiritually connected to something greater than  myself.
  8. Establishing your goals and limits at work will pay off eventually. Unfortunately not so much financially at this time. Networking is important.
  9. Driving helps clear my mind. Whenever something is weighing heavy on my mind driving clears it right up or preps me to tackle it again.
  10. I want to find my “person”.

Martial Arts Meme…

Sunday Stealing: The Martial Arts Meme
Who was the last person that you held hands with? I high-five’d my co-worker if that counts. I was letting them know they had done a great job.

Are you loud, outgoing or shy?  I am all of these things except loud depending on who I am with.

Who are you looking forward to see? My family

Are you easy to get along with? This really depends on who you ask and when you ask them

Have you ever given up on someone, only to let them back into your lives? Why? Yes. Later today I am meeting up with an old friend I officially ended friendship about a year ago. I reached out recently to assess if we should rekindle the friendship. There were more pros than cons.

If you were ill, which TV doctor or nurse would you want to take care of you? Dr. House or Dr. McDreamy

Does talking about sex make you uncomfortable? Not at all. It does make others in my life uncomfortable

Who was the last person that you had serious conversation with? My bestie from high school

What was the last text message you received about? Setting up a happy  hour with my defunct book club girls.

Do you believe in luck and/or miracles? I believe we make our own luck.

What good thing happened this summer? I traveled to Toronto, a part of Canada I had never been before.

Convince us why we should or should not believe in life on other planets? If we are the most intelligent life form out there then we were always doomed.

Who was your first crush on? A neighbor boy that was/is a year younger than me.

Favorite part of daily routine? Bedtime

Do you like your neighbors? Despite thin walls they are very discreet. I really love that about them.

What’s your worst feature? I overthink things I should just make a decision on.

Have you ever had trust issues? Hahahaa….Yes! Still do

Thank you for playing this week on Sunday Stealing! Please leave a comment or link when you have posted. Stop back and visit other player’s posts. That is really what this is all about, making new friends! Have a great week. See you next Sunday! 

The Mad Hatter’s Meme

Cheer to all of us thieves!!
Sunday Stealing: The Mad Hatter’s Meme

What’s the meaning or inspiration of your blog’s title? Starting over Sarah. This current blog was started when I started back at school.

What do you consider your biggest strength? My ability to see both sides of a situation.

What do you consider your biggest weakness? Even though I can see both sides of something I focus on my own best interest.

Tell us why we should like your favorite band. U2 is a classic

Who is your favorite model of all-time? Why? I don’t follow models

Does it bother you when people talk about their pets? Why? Yes. It is annoying to hear the stories of how smart their furry babies are.

Tell us about your favorite holiday. Any holidays that I get a day off from work.

What was the last fabulous meal that you ate? Where were you?  Anything with a steak involved

What’s your lucky number and why? I don’t have a lucky # but I have a favorite one, #5

What are five things you hate? Lying, beer,shoveling snow,driving in rainstorms, bad kissers

What are five things you love? truth,sex,good kissers,a good book,long drives with loud music

Tell us a secret you can because other than us, who’ll read this anyway? I love twinkies

What is the favorite body feature of yourself? My eyes

Is there a tattoo that you want? If you don’t have one, gun-to-your-head so you have to get one, what would it be? A flower

What do you love about yourself? What do you hate about yourself? Who is someone you miss? I love hair and hate my teeth and I miss my dearly departed grandparents.

Random Recap…

After a long drive weekend I embarked on yet another one but with a better purpose. I was able to spend some quality time with the kiddo. A couple of things I have realized, she is no longer a kid and she is not quite yet an adult. To live and observe too much disables your ability to move forward. My kid for better or worse is an avid observer but not much of an executor. She has little faith in her capabilities to do stuff so she defers to others but then complains we control her life. Since she defers to us to make decisions we in essence do control most aspects of her life. Fear of failure seems to hold her back. My hope is one day she sees failure not as a bad thing but as an opportunity to learn things about herself or of things around. I will find it difficult myself to move forward until I feel she is ready and able to take care of herself. The worry sometimes overwhelms me and I am sure it does her too.

Another random thing I learned in the last couple of weeks is that I wait for no one. I refuse to not do something just because I can’t find others to do them with. I have wanted to get to Toronto for years. For various reasons, mostly financial I had not done so. Two weeks ago I bit the bullet and made the trek. In what would take most people eight hours it took me roughly twelve hours to drive from northern New Jersey to the Pearson airport area. A few things I had not taken into account before embarking on my journey was the cell service situation. Even though it is the same continent it is still in fact a different country and so it is silly to assume your service will work there too. About fifteen minutes from my hotel I lost GPS signal and all ability to make calls. I should be happy I made it as far as I did. Thankfully I had checked ahead of directions and made good mental notes to get me to the general area of my hotel and my general good sense of direction. The other thing I had not anticipated was my need for frequent bathroom breaks. Age does really affect your tolerance to sit in one position for long periods of time. I also wished I had paid closer attention in science and math class as a kid to better understand Fahrenheit/Celsius conversion or the kilometers to miles thing. It would  have made trip less confusing.

Project reconnect with my facebook fan base is a work in progress. So far I have met up with an old co-worker, and two old blogger friends. I want to only have people on my facebook that I actually know and have met at some point. I do post a lot of person on there mostly for the family so if you are able to see my pictures and stuff I want to have had met you at least once in my life. There is still one person I have yet to meet in person but attempts have been less than great. Like I said, a work in progress.

The old co-worker was a lady from my first job in NJ and the last time before last we saw each other was randomly as we waited for the bus to get home. I installed messenger and we made plans. It took three months but finally our schedules worked out and we met at a local panera bread. It was a relatively pleasant thirty minutes of my life, maybe forty-five. We caught up, took some selfies and were on our way. We had some distance plan to do it again but who knows.

The first blogger friend was my Canada contact. We met almost a decade ago in another incarnation of my life blog where I kept things pretty personal. Once that blog went down we migrated to facebook friend status. After many failed attempts, mostly due to my financial situation we made it so. She met me at my hotel after I lost all GPS capabilities and could only connect via the free wifi from the hotel. We had a nice dinner, took a selfie and I spent the rest of my time roaming Toronto alone. I am pretty resourceful and got around pretty easily.

Today I met up with the second blogger friend that has migrated to facebook status. We had met in person about eight years ago when I moved back to NJ. We had made plans since Wednesday that kept falling through but today we met at a local starbucks and talked for a little bit. It was nice but something was off and not necessarily in a bad way just off. I am glad there were not many awkward silences just at some point talking in circles. A nice person though.
I do love traveling and I think I will do more of it going forward. I just hope my car can take the abuse and survive the winters.

Random Act of Kindness…

Just when I had lost all hope for the new generation an example comes by and shows me not all hope is lost.

This Saturday I went to a local wine festival when the temperature outside was set at hell. I should have known better than to be out and about. I should have stayed home and drank more water.

When I got there the parking was full and I was detoured around the corner and up a hill. The walk down was not so bad but on the way back I ended getting light headed and nauseous. I stopped often and tried to gather the energy to keep up the hill. At some point I said fuck it and pushed myself to move forward and it worked until I got mid way through the last part and I had to hold onto the fence to keep from falling down. As I was falling down I heard basketball being played nearby and I steadied myself up and managed a wave. The teenager playing saw me and waved back. I waved again signaling for him to come to me and he ran over and asked what I needed. I muttered I could use some water and off he went. I slowly walked over to some nearby steps and sat with  my head down. The teenager came back with four bottles of water, and a cold wet rag to put around my neck. He seemed genuinely concerned and after a few minutes of awkward silence he suggested I go inside his house because of the central air. I hesitated and asked where are his parents and replied not home. When I stood up I got dizzy and followed him toward the house. I mentioned off hand he should not make it a habit of taking in strangers. He said I seemed safe. He guided to his sitting area(foray?) and got me more water. His little dog came up to me and tried playing with me. Once I could muster the energy I petted him and such. After about another fifteen minutes I said I should go and thanked him for his kindness. As I made it to the door he ran behind me and offered to walk me to my car but I said I was fine and thanked him again for his niceness. A few feet away I got lightheaded again and I asked some nearby random adults to give me a lift to my car and they reluctantly agreed. Once I got to my car I drank the remaining bottles of water as the air conditioner chilled the car. I drove home and did not leave the house until the following morning.

Kindness is free. I wish more people believed in it. It can be dangerous and sometimes inconvenient but it could save a life one day.

The Gal Meme

We Found this gem when last week we asked for memes to steal. The Gal Herself, (my friend and the author of Saturday 9) gave us this one that she stole from Kwizgiver (my friend and the author of this meme except this summer). It’s long so we broke it up. As it says above, we edit and change questions. Mostly I hate yes or no questions. So I change them or delete them. Sometimes I rewrite almost every question. That also allows the person I stole it from to play. That’s not a goal but it is reality. If you think hosting a meme is easy, try it once. Okay, now time for me to shout:

Cheer to all of us thieves!!

Sunday Stealing: The Gal’s Meme, Part One

What’s your favorite word or phrase?  

“This too shall pass”
Tell us about a person who made you smile today.

It is too early. I haven’t made human contact yet. The bagel guy made me smile this morning.
What were you doing at 8 am this morning?

I am watching a movie.

What were you doing 30 minutes ago?

What is your favorite holiday? Why?

I hate holidays in general.

Tell us about a visit to another country.

I went to Spain and England. I loved Spain the most. From the hotel I stayed in I walked to a park a lot like central park and it was beautiful. I also loved London. I loved  the beauty and the history.

What is the last thing you said aloud?

What the fuck!

What was the last thing you had to drink?

Snapple Raspberry  Tea.

What are you wearing right now?

Blue jeans and brown shirt.

What was the last thing you ate?

An everything bagel with cream cheese.

Have you bought any new clothing items this week?

When was the last time you ran?

On purpose? Years.
What’s the last sporting event you watched?

A Mets game at Citifield last year.
If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go?

Someone where it is mountains and serene.
Who is the last person you sent a comment/message to on Facebook?

A friend from Canada.

Ever go camping? If yes, tell us about one time.

I did as a girl scout. It was the first and the last time. I like the wilderness but my ideal idea of camping is a luxury cabin in the woods.

Do you think a tan improves your looks?

Meh. I don’t really tan I burn and peel.

Have you ever lost anything down a toilet?

Nothing I have wanted to keep.

What is your guilty pleasure?

Peace and quiet.


The Gongerling Meme

1. You’re building your dream house. What’s the one thing that this house absolutely, positively MUST HAVE? (other than the obvious basics of course) 

A library/office.

2. What is your dream car? 

Anything Toyota

3. What is your favorite website that isn’t a blog.

4. iPhone or Droid, which do you want/have? 


5. When you’re feeling down or lonely or just generally out of sorts, what do you do to cheer yourself up?

Long drives

6. Tell me about something or someone that you love that most people seem to hate. 

Being genuine.

7. What did you want to be when you grew up?

Financially stable and a writer

8. Would you go on a reality show if given the chance?

Absolutely not. I hate reality tv.

9. Who was your favorite teacher when you were growing up? (Grade school, Middle School, Jr. High or High School only.) 

My English teacher

10. You get one pass to do something illegal or immoral. What are you gonna do? 


11. What were you doing 10 years ago? 

Living in Florida.

12. By this time next year, I … 

I want to be making more money

13. What is something that you need to do but you’ve procrastinated on?


14. Which fictional, TV show character you would shag anytime? 

Tony DiNozzo

15. What is your greatest pet peeve? 

Hearing people chew.

16. Tell me about your most recent trip of more than 100 miles? 

I drove to Maryland.

17. Which do you use more often, the dictionary or the thesaurus? 


18. Do you have a nickname? What is it? 

Gordita de oro

19. What are you dreading at the moment? 


20. Do you have a meme you think we should steal?  (Yes, an old trick. But c’mon now. I gotta give it a shot. It’s a lot harder to find memes now. But it’s ok to answer “You’re lazy” an all it a day.)

Not really

Beach Boy Meme…

Sunday Stealing: The Beach Boys’ Meme

1. SURFER GIRL : “I have watched you on the shore, standing by the ocean drawer, do you love me do you surfer girl” Were you ever interested in someone (other than a celebrity) who did not return your interest? 

The story of my love life.

2. BE TRUE TO YOUR SCHOOL : “So be true to your school now, just like you would for your girl or guy…” Looking back, how do you feel about your high school days? 

I think back and wonder how I survived. I went to school in a pretty bad neighborhood. I do miss though the simple nature of those days.

3. FUN FUN FUN : “…and she’ll have fun fun fun till her daddy takes the T-Bird away…” What was the worst punishment you received as a teenager? 

A beat down from my dad. I hit back in the sense of self defense and kicked him away hard enough to give me time to run down the street to  my best friend at the time.

4. I GET AROUND : “Round round get around, I get around” Where did you go on your last long trip? 

Florida back in January.

 5. HELP ME RHONDA : “You gotta help me Rhonda, help me get her off of my mind” What do you do to cheer up after a personal tragedy such as a lost job, power outage or broken relationship? 

A long drive with the windows down and the music blasting.

 6. CALIFORNIA GIRLS : “I wish they all could be California girls. The west coast has the sunshine and the girls there get so tan, I dig a French bikini on Hawaiian island dolls, by a palm tree in the sand” Where are the best boys found? 

Not sure since I haven’t really been looking.

7. SLOOP JOHN B : “I wanna go home, please let me go home, ya ya. Well this is the worst trip, I’ve ever been on…” What is the worst trip you’ve ever been on? 

I wouldn’t say worst but the most complicated was last August trying to make it out to Dallas. I think it took longer to get there than the time I actually spent there.

8. WOULDN’T IT BE NICE : “I guess the more we talk about it, it makes it harder just to live without it, but let’s talk about it…” What is your biggest wish? 

This changes daily but the top three is health, happiness and an influx of money.

9. IN MY ROOM : “There’s a place where I can go and tell my secrets to. In my room. In my room.” What is your favorite thing about your own personal room or space in your home/office? 

That there is no television.

10. GOD ONLY KNOWS : “You never need to doubt it, I’ll make you so sure about it. God only knows what I feel about you” When was the last time you told a significant other or close relative that you loved them? 

Yesterday. The last time I talked to kiddo.

11. GOOD VIBRATIONS : “My baby has good vibrations, she’s giving me excitations…” When do you get good vibrations? 

When I am reading, writing, driving and socializing.

12. KOKOMO : “We’ll go to Kokomo. We’ll get there fast and then we’ll take it slow. That’s where I wanna go…” What is your favorite warm weather destination? 

Anywhere woodsy.

13. DO IT AGAIN : “Let’s get back together and do it again…” If you could go back in time and gather up your school friends, what would you do again? 

Well in 2009 we all got together and went to steakhouse. It was a surreal experience.

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