So recently I tried to have some sexy time and it was a bust. A friend informed me that it was probably due to the stress I have going on. I was bummed that after all that effort I didn’t get the pay off. The upside is that I apparently didn’t forget how to do it, just how to enjoy it. Thank goodness for autopilot, nay on stress related side effects.
I have a friend that has limited experience in the matters of physical affections. She constantly goes to me with questions, even the basic stuff. I worry that at her tender age of 45 there is very little I can answer for her that will help. The man she likes seems more challenged in that arena than her. I worry her expectations are too high. I can’t imagine what it must be to a 45 year old virgin in this over sexual society we live in.I remember when I was young and curious things seemed easier and inexperience was mostly true on both sides of the equation. I am not sure at my tender age of 40 I could handle someone I had to teach things to. Confidence, I find is very attractive and skill doesn’t hurt either.
Recently I tested the waters of the carnal variation and the person involved had very specific expectations. I was more than willing to give it a try and for the most part it worked out OK. I did feel at times they were trying to reenact something they read in Fifty Shades of Grey which is stupid, IMO. I am usually the sub but in this situation I grew more into the role of dom. In the back of my mind I kept thinking of that commercial of the two old ladies and one of them states this is not how this, this is not how any of this works. After we were done I decided he would not get repeat business. He is was nice and all but not where I need him to be for my tastes. I was expecting someone who had basic skills and confidence to be himself in bed and not someone he thought I needed or wanted.